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A Good Person

Hello Humans of the internet!  Happy Monday.  I’m actually glad that it’s Monday because I’ve gotten and idea for a project at work and I can’t wait to send it to the customer.  This summer, I was working at an arts based literacy camp which I believe I have mentioned before here.  While there a co-worker said “You’d be surprised he’s atheist because he’s so kind.”

This obviously got me thinking and has kept me thinking for several months.  This happened in July.  I thought about doing a post right then about this, but I wanted to have give myself time to think more about what she had said.  “You’d be surprised he’s atheist because he’s so kind.”  I feel like that implies a lot of things that I’m not sure about.

Are you saying that people need the threat of Hell to be kind to each other?

Is Jesus and the eventual judgement day the only thing keeping you kind?

Do you think Christianity is purely about kindness?

I don’t know much about anything really.  But the fact that a girl said this and a room full of Christian Sunday School teachers all agreed with her concerned me.  Also that I was seen as not a good Christian because I said I didn’t think kindness was specific to Christianity.  Because I can’t go back in time and explain what I was trying to convey now that I’ve had lots of time to overthink the whole situation, I’m going to tell y’all.

To begin with I don’t believe that Christianity is about kindness.  Yes, we are called to help those in need.  The widows and the orphans.  The poor and hungry.  But these things are not exclusive to Christianity.  Anyone of any religion or no religion can feel compassion for another human.  If you are kind to people as some sort of chore to God, I’m concerned about you.

For me, being a Christian is having a relationship with Christ.  It is following him and what he is calling you to do even if you don’t think it’s something you are good at.  I know a lot of Sunday School teachers quote “they will know you by your actions” to tell children to be kind.  The teacher book I had suggested it.  But, if you look up John 13:35, it doesn’t really say that and the surrounding versus at a lot to the meaning.

My children, I will be with you only a little longer.  You will look for me, and just as I told the Jew, so I tell you now: Where I am going, you cannot come.  A new command I give you: Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”  John 13: 33-35

It doesn’t say be nice to each other.  It says love one another.  Because I like to simplify things I thought I’d describe this with gummy bears (in college I wrote more than one essay in my ethics class describing complex themes with gummy bears and I got pretty good grades so I think this is effective).

There is a bowl full of gummy bears sitting on your desk.  It’s way more gummy bears then you could eat at once and you have a friend with no gummy bears.  Pretty much every person would share their gummy bears with their friend.  Some people would share the gummy bears even if they didn’t know the other person.  These are both kind people, but that’s not what God is calling us to do.

God calls us to love one another as he loves us.

There is a bowl on you desk that has a few gummy bears in it, about as many as you could eat in a sitting.  There is a person with an empty bowl on their desk.  You don’t know why their bowl is empty.  Maybe they never had gummy bears.  Maybe someone took their gummy bears.  Maybe they ate all of their gummy bears.  It doesn’t matter.  You see that they don’t have, so you offer all of your gummy bears.

Maybe gummy bears seems a little silly, but replace gummy bears with something else like food, shelter, warm blankets, love, anything.  God calls us to give all of our gifts and to trust that he will provide.

Sorry to be a little preachy teachy.  My Sunday School students started attending a bigger church with a better youth group and that was my favorite part of the week.  So, now I have no one to talk with about the big ideas in the Bible.

Whatever your religion is, what does it mean to you to follow it?

Much love,



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I'm a recent college graduate with dyslexia making my way in the world.

13 thoughts on “A Good Person

    1. Thank you! I understand wanting to think about this one, it took me months to even write the post. I likeyour adoption analogy! I feel like you got what I was trying to say down to a few sentences. 😄


  1. Ok so sorry this is a bit late of a response but I’ve been thinking on it alot. It definitely bothers me that a Christian would say it’s surprising that an atheist could be kind. If you are a Christian you believe God created all life. ALL people were created by the Creator. So how can it be surprising that any of us could show kindness.

    Analogy time…
    If you were adopted as a baby, and as an adult found out you looked like your birth parents, would you believe that’s not possible because you don’t count them as your parents, You count your adopted parents as your real parents…?

    So my point is, just because someone doesn’t know or believe in their Creator doesn’t mean they won’t “look” like Him in some ways.

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  2. I don’t align to a religion nor believe in a god (unless you count Mother Nature). There is good and bad in all walks of life, I’ve seen extraordinary compassion from atheists/agnostics, and some of the atrocities commited in the name of ‘a’ god leave most of us speechless. Christianity and other religions are a great way of teaching and showing acts of kindness but surely it’s not a pre-requisite for being a decent human being. I’m vegetarian, so will have to politely decline your offer to share your gummy bears. 😉

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    1. I agree that it’s not a prerequisite for kindness and was really shocked when I found out that the people I was working with thought it was. Also, can you point me towards some vegetarian sweets? I’m I have been trying to be vegetarian, but i love candy and have been having a hard time figuring out which ones were okay

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      1. Veggie sweets can be a minefield can’t they? There are some surprising grey areas (such as cochineal colouring, shellac, plus US labelling varies widely from UK and I’m not sure which ingredients are ok). At the very least I avoid gelatine, and for jelly sweets I believe Swedish Fish and Jelly Belly Beans are ok. I used to work somewhere that sold American candy ;). Most chocolate bars should be ok. You’re on the wrong side of The Pond for me to be much help. A Google search should prove fruitful 😉

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        1. Thank you so much! I don’t know anyone in my day to day life that are vegetarian and didn’t even know how to start looking for stuff (I did find a recipe on Pinterest that caught my microwave on fire)😓


  3. Jesus tell His followers how to live. Don’t be afraid. Love one another. That about sums it up. He certainly never said that other people couldn’t do the same things. It makes me nuts when Christians spend all their free time ragging on non-Christians. I bet God is not very happy about that either.


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