So, I have found another trick (cue happy music). This one I most likely should have figured out years ago and probably would have if I hadn’t been so stubborn.
Trick and Cope 2: ASK FOR HELP.
I know, crazy, isn’t it. Who would ask for help doing something that they were physically incapable of doing? I personally have always been afraid to ask someone for help reading. What if they thought I was less intelligent just because reading was difficult for me??? What if they laugh at me??? What if they are actually really cool about it, but I’m overly awkward because I’m expecting them not to be??? What if I actually have social anxiety??? What if I can’t stay on topic???
Slight break down aside, asking for help may seem like the obvious thing to do, but it is super difficult. No one wants to feel like a burden. I don’t want my friends or family to feel like I’m constantly asking for help. But here’s the thing: if someone really cares about you, they won’t mind helping you. Put yourself into their shoes, if you had a friend that needed help with something, that you found easy, wouldn’t you be happy to help them? If you don’t believe me, allow me to add in a little anecdotal evidence.
Earlier this week, my friend and I were working on homework together. For one of my classes I am required to read Aristotle’s Nichomacean Ethics. Very difficult read (I do recommend it, though). When I came across words, phrases, or even whole paragraphs that I couldn’t understand, I did the unthinkable. At least it would have been unthinkable for me until fairly recently. I asked him what it said. And you know what? He didn’t laugh. He didn’t make fun of me. He wasn’t exasperated. He wasn’t annoyed. He didn’t think I was stupid. He just read it out loud for me.
I pray that anyone who has a disablity to ask for help because someone, a boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, room mate, sibling, parent, teacher, someone, will help you with zero judgement. I also pray that anyone who is asked for help can be able to give that help without making the other person feel inferior. It is a beautiful world full of beautiful people.
Until next time, keep it weird.